Your mindset determines your psychological dwelling state, unfortunately your mindset was determined in the first two years of your life. As an infant, devoid of language with an undeveloped rational mind, life is experienced through feelings. These pre-linguistic feelings are the foundation of your Core Constellation of Feelings which are buried deep in the unconscious and in adult life are your go to place of feeling. As the rational mind develops with language development beliefs about yourself begin to form and the Core Constellation of Beliefs forms around the Core Constellation of Feeling and again these reside within the unconscious mind. Thirdly the Core Constellation of Values is formed out of your feeling and belief structure, and this determines what you value in life and is the source of your drives and ambitions in adulthood. What we must come to realize is that by age five your personality, character and mindset are fully developed, but unfortunately they were created by the immature mind of a child. Thinking and the rational mind are totally dependent on language, one cannot think rationally without language. Your earliest experiences of life and love were laid down in the unconscious before you developed language with which to process these emotions with your rational mind, and therefore your earliest emotional experiences can be said to be irrational, but this does not take away from the validity of the lived experience.
Ninety percent of your mental life is unconscious, the power of your unconscious mind is staggering and the effects of it in daily life are beyond comprehension. They are beyond comprehension because they are not allowed into consciousness by the egoic mind which works frantically to repress them by constantly chattering to you, your conscious mind must be kept occupied or the unconscious mind can access the conscious mind from which we live and have our consciousness experience. The conscious mind could easily be completely overwhelmed but the raw(unprocessed) emotional content of the unconscious mind.
What is your usual psychological resting state, where do you go when you are not busy or distracted from your inner psychological state. Do you go to a place of worry, anxiety or fearfulness, or do you go to a place of despair, hopelessness, despondency or depression or are you one of the very fortunate few who feel happy, joyful and free? Your psychological resting place is where you live and experience life from, and it determines your happiness. The good news is you can change your psychological state from a negative resting place to a positive one.
Firstly one must come to know oneself, what are the feelings that constitute your Core Constellation of Feelings, and that’s easy, what are the feelings that constantly resurface in your life and that you habitually return to. Next what are your Constellation of Beliefs that arise from these feelings, do you believe you are lovable or unlovable, valued or undervalued, are you worthy or unworthy, is the world safe or unsafe, are you secure or insecure, what is it you fundamentally believe about yourself and your relationship to the world. Finally what are your values, do you value success, prestige, popularity, belonging or power and control. Fundamentally your values are the foundation of your compensatory behaviors that are based upon your feeling and belief structure.
“Know yourself and the truth shall set you free”. If we truly know and understand ourselves we can begin to make sense of our suffering and stop repeating our feeling history. If we understand our existing psychological state we can change it. Having identified our core feelings we can allow them into consciousness and process them with our rational mind one by one, thus defusing them. Likewise knowing our unconscious beliefs about ourselves and the world we can allow these beliefs into consciousness and challenge their validity. The same goes for our values or compensatory mechanism. Finally having done the work we can choose a new more meaningful mindset or psychological state of being and begin the process of reprogramming the personal unconscious. Once the work has been done you can choose to put on a new mindset and live your life out of it.
There is one warning however, it has become popular in pop psychology to attempt to reprogram the unconscious mind through positive affirmations and thinking etc., if this path is undertaken the existing and very powerful unconscious content is repressed further into the unconscious where it becomes even more powerful. We first need to process and evacuate the existing feelings and beliefs before we can lay down new content. It is the old saying about putting new wine into old wineskins. The power of positive thinking without evacuation is merely another form of repression. If you believe in the Law of Attraction, you must understand that it is the unprocessed content of the unconscious that is doing the attracting, and not the content of the conscious mind that only has one tenth of the power of the unconscious mind. Therefore, you must complete the inner work of knowing oneself and processing the repressed content of the unconscious mind before the Power of Positive Thinking or the Law of Attraction will really work for you.
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